I woke up from a coma 20 weeks pregnant and my husband, who had undergone surgery, called me a traitor, until the hospital cameras showed who was entering my room at night saying, “I am her husband.”

We decided to name him Noah. Lily and Mia kissed his forehead gently as if he were a precious treasure made of the finest glass.

Trevor took longer to adjust and I often saw him watching from the doorway with a conflicted expression. One early morning, I walked into the living room and found him fast asleep on the sofa with a miracle in his arms.

Noah was resting on Trevor’s chest while Trevor’s hand was wrapped protectively around the small child. That was the moment I realized that healing does not mean forgetting what happened to us.

It means deciding that the pain of the past will not be allowed to dictate our future happiness. Our family was never the same as it was before the accident, but we remained a family nonetheless.

I learned that the weight of shame should never be carried by the person who survived the ordeal. The guilt belongs solely to the person who caused the harm and took advantage of the vulnerable.